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Children's lives are influenced by their family and school environments. Their lives are one of learning and change and also of strong emotions. If children have a difficult family or school life, with little chance of leaving to go anywhere else and little objectivity to understand their situation, it can be very difficult for them to deal with their emotions.
Children are less able to express their emotions than adults and mostly do not have the know-how to seek help from a third party. Graphology can help to understand and to gain an insight into what the child is experiencing.
Having less developed defence mechanisms, it is important to understand Children's inner lives to try to help them with their difficulties, to make up for what they crave or to stop what is making them miserable.
At this crucial stage of a persons development, graphology can act as a guide to ensure a more healthy and balanced development.
Children's handwriting is prone to change, it has not developed into a fixed and determined style or way of writing but the changes alone give clues as to the child's progress and the rules of handwriting analysis can be applied at any age.
Here are handwriting samples of two children who have different family stories.
Martin is 11 years old. His parents divorced 5 years ago and they continue to have a difficult relationship, at times unable to speak to each other. He lives with his mother and his father lives nearby. Both his parents care for him very much and do what they can to be good and loving. His father picks him up and takes him to school every morning and looks after him at the week-end. Both his mother and his father, however, have difficulties of their own. They are both heavy drinkers with differing effects. His mother drinks in spurts and sometimes combines her drinking with a large intake of pills, resulting in fits and hospitalisation. His father drinks every day and also takes soft drugs on a regular basis. He is emotionally withheld from others and quick to become impatient and angered.
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Martin's writing shines with the vitality of youth. He is a bright and active kid who knows how to enjoy himself and who is good company for anyone to have around. There are also signs of despondency and confusion - his confidence varies and he has a hard time maintaining a happy attitude within. He has a tendency to disappear into the world of his imagination, distracting himself from sadness by singing a tune, for example, or inventing stories around imaginary characters. His method of escape is precarious and it does not entirely defend him from anxiety and tension.
The writing shows suppressed emotions which could later cause subconscious anxieties and unresolved complexes. They could also result in physical illness and the effort that he is making to keep them at bay will affect his overall energy and ability to achieve. From a graphological point of view, the movements which point to unresolved emotions can be kept an eye on as time goes by to monitor the child's inner happiness and balance.
Martin has strong positive as well as negative aspects to his script, which reflect his own positive qualities and the love and care he receives from his parents as well as their confusing, sometimes unbearably distressing behaviour.
The second sample is the handwriting of a 10 year old girl called Kayleigh. Her mother had her as a single parent when she was 17. When Kayleigh was 3 her mother moved in with a man who was unpredictable and who would sometimes come home drunk and violent. Together they had another child, Kayleigh's half sister, who is now 6. One day when Kayleigh's mother had been hit once too often, she decided to leave with her two children. She managed to work, have the children looked after and eventually was able to buy a small house which was their own. Times were hard, money was tight and the fathering situation was difficult for all of them. Now Kayleigh's mother is living with another man who is kind and loving and a good father to both the girls, even though they are not his own. They have moved into a bigger house, each has their daily routine and the girls go to see their respective fathers every second week-end.
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Kayleigh's writing shows that she is an extremely bright, quick thinking girl who applies herself to her work with ease and shines at school. She knows her mind and can be quite determined. She has an optimistic, almost passionate drive to progress and to do something with herself. There are also signs of sensitivity and a fear of failure. She has learnt, with her mothers example, how to think positively and yet the insecurity of her early life has left its mark of susceptibility.
Kayleigh has a need for physical warmth and affection from her mother. This is a little girl who is able to cope but who craves love in the form of hugs and kisses and physical contact. The writing as it is today suggests that she could become a successful though somewhat demanding adult but that she would develop into a more mellow, soft and happy person were she to receive greater affection.
When the graphologist put this to the mother, she readily agreed and recognised that she found it difficult to give Kayleigh hugs. The mother herself lost her own loving mother when she was eight (cancer) and spent the rest of her childhood living with a cold, harsh step mother and an impossible, abusive father. She says she finds it too painful to be physically loving towards her children, because of the love that was taken away from her when she was young. Much untangling needs to be done and no one can rush this process but communication has been opened and Kayleigh's mother has taken the first brave step of explaining to her why she finds it difficult to hug her.
Many factors are involved, for example the mother's fear that her admissions will be too painful for Kayleigh to hear, versus explaining the truth. Through graphology however, the child's (and the mother's) needs and progress can be carefully followed and channels of exploration can be opened.
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